Using Confirmation Bias for Good
You’ve probably heard of confirmation bias—where you see what you expect to see. I have truly witnessed a profound contrast in results between expecting roadblocks versus expecting miracles. Last week, I went through several days of hitting dead ends, with many people telling me there wasn’t a solution out there for me. It didn’t take long before I felt very down and expected nothing to work. I grew more hopeless by the day. I only kept searching for the missing solution because I refuse to leave a stone unturned on behalf of a loved one in crisis.
In desperation, I cried out to God. I told Him I didn’t know what to do and that I just wanted my Mama! She would know what to do and would have some good advice for me. I pleaded with God to send her to me, even if only in a dream. I wanted to see her face and have her tell me what to do. That very night, she appeared in my dreams. The message she delivered was that we are surrounded by angels who are here to help us. They may look like ordinary people, or they may be with us in spirit. But we are not alone. We have unseen help. They love us and are on our side.
The message: Look for angels everywhere.
The next day, an angel in human form showed up in a dark place where you would never expect an angel. This complete stranger compassionately helped my loved one during a severe crisis. This experience made me really start looking for angels! I felt certain God would make a way where there seemed to be no way, with these angels orchestrating on behalf of my loved one and me.
As I began to document angel sightings and miracles, I started seeing more and more angels and miracles. I began to see the roadblocks as unseen angels saying, “Not this way, keep trying, tweak it, you’re almost there.” Then, when I’d try something that didn’t work, an idea would pop into my mind, I’d follow that lead, and it would go somewhere.
The more I looked for angels and miracles, the more things started opening up for me. People began helping me. One woman, whose facility wasn’t covered by my loved one’s insurance, stuck with me over 2-3 days, calling and checking with me until she located the one facility that the insurance covered. Who does that? Maybe someone who gets a commission or a finder’s fee? But lots of other facilities didn’t go to this much trouble.
As long as I expected roadblocks, I hit them. But the moment I believed and shifted to grateful expectation, the winds changed, and step by step, windows and doors started opening.
What will you look for this week? Roadblocks or Miracles? Uncaring people or angels? We see what we’re looking for.
